With 2017 now behind us, I'm looking forward to the new year with a positive outlook and new goals. Last year I set goals for myself throughout the year to encourage me to do the things that I always wanted to do. I started doing this because I have a bad habit of talking myself out of things, either because I'm afraid or because I just keep putting it off. But the result always ended up the same: I end up not doing anything that year and I spend the my New Years Eve feeling sorry for myself.
I had a small list of 10 goals that grew into a bigger list of 30. It started out with just small, easily attainable goals but it eventually evolved into bigger ones. What I loved about setting these goals for myself is that it gave me confidence. Once I stopped making excuses and just did them despite my fears or laziness, it made feel like I accomplished something important. And what's more is that it made me feel silly for being afraid in the first place.
So with all that said, here are my goals for 2018:
1. Take meditation classes/Go on a meditation retreat.
I made a goal last year to start meditating. But I haven't quite gotten the hang of it yet. See, I'm an overthinker. I can sit and ruminate over things for hours. They say it's good to reflect on things. But if you're like me, you often reflect on mistakes, or conversations you wish had gone differently. Incessantly thinking about these things just kept bringing me down and it often became very overwhelming.
"A wandering mind is an unhappy mind." - David Michie
I found that quote to be very true. Which is why I want to start taking classes, including yoga and regular walks around the neighborhood. Meditation is very calming and I always put me in a lighter mood afterward. I'm also going on a meditation retreat this month. My first one. It'll be for a whole week. No work, no distractions. Just me. My hope for this retreat is find some clarity.
2. Get at least 100 reviews.
If you happened to glance at my home page, you might have noticed that I wrote a book called Social Misfits. It's my inspiration for starting this blog because I'm a social misfit myself, and I hoped to find and connect with people out there like me who struggle to fit in or make friends.
But I'm having trouble getting some reviews. As you know, the more reviews you have the more likely people are to notice it. I've started the process of finding and contacting bloggers and reviewers to write a review of my book in a exchange for a free copy. I've gotten a few yeses so far, and just got my first review as a result! But it takes a lot of time to find people that are willing to leave a review. Which is why I'm making this a goal. I often procrastinate and I get discouraged easily. If I make this a goal, it'll motivate me to keep going.
So, if you haven't already, please read and leave a review of my book. It'll help a lot in getting my book noticed by other readers.
3. Read 1 new book a month.
I love to read. But I don't read as much as I'd like, at least not lately. Books are entertaining. Books provide knowledge. Books can inspire personal growth. By setting this goal, it'll allow me to not keep setting it aside because of work, or...Netflix.
Here are a few on my to-read list:
4. Break away from everyone who makes me feel bad about myself.
Last year made me realize how much I worry about what others think of me. It was to the point where I felt like I wasn't worthy unless certain people liked me. Placing that kind of value on a person who's opinion of you ultimately doesn't matter was not good for me at all. And if certain people can't appreciate you for who you are, or make you feel bad for being just a little different than they are, what good are they to you?
This year I'm not going to waste any time trying to fit in with people who make me feel bad about myself. What's the point? Life's too short. It's better to spend it being happy with who you are.
5. Cook a meal once a week.
So here's the thing. I love to watch cooking shows - Masterchef, Top Chef, Chopped, you name it - but I don't actually cook myself. I prefer stopping by the drive thru at McDonald's for a quick burger to actually taking the time to cook something myself. Unless it's instant ramen. But does that count as cooking?
6. Network with other authors/attend a writer's conference.
This is something that I've always wanted to do. But I'm really shy, an introvert, and the thought of talking to people I don't know makes me very nervous.
But I just published a book a couple of months ago, and I'm realizing how much I have yet to learn. I'm very new to this world and I'm still learning the tricks of the trade, so to speak. With this goal, I can meet other authors, learn new tips, and hopefully gain some inspiration.
7. Go to the US Open/New York.
Doesn't require much explanation. I love to watch tennis. Rafael Nadal is my favorite tennis player! If I can be even in the same vicinity as him, it would be a dream come true. I've also never been to New York City. I figured I can kill two birds with one stone and visit the city's hot spots.
Last year, I had set a goal to go to Orlando, Florida to see The Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal Studios. As a Harry Potter fan, it was an awesome experience! It felt like I was actually there! I'm so glad I went. Going to Orlando, made me want to travel more. So this year, I'm going to New York City.
8. Go to two concerts.
Last year, I had a goal to go to one concert. Before then, I hadn't been to one since I was a kid. In case you haven't figured it out yet, I don't get out much. Going to that concert last year was a big thing for me. (It was Pitbull, in case you wanted to know.)
9. Go indoor skydiving.
I generally don't like to venture outside my comfort zone. But every once in a while I do get the desire try something adventurous. Usually after watching an action movie. But like I said, I make excuses, I become afraid, and eventually talk myself out of doing it. Leaving me to live out the desire only in my head.
Last year I had two goals related to this: Indoor rock climbing and kickboxing. I found both to be extremely rewarding, hence this year's goal to try skydiving. I'm not a risk-junky, so actually jumping out of a plane is too terrifying to me. Indoor skydiving is much safer with a similar thrill of excitement.
10. Complete the first draft of my second book.
Social Misfits is a series. With the first book down, it's time to start writing the second one. With this goal, I bet you can guess another goal I had last year.
I had a goal last year to publish my first book. It had actually been completed for a while. But after getting rejected by literary agents and publishing companies, I made the decision to publish it myself. Once I filled in the necessary information, all I had to do was click publish. It was the most nerve-wracking thing ever. I literally sat there for ten minutes fretting over how it will affect my future (good and bad).
But I promise, once I complete my next book, there won't be so much hesitation to click the button...hopefully?
11. Go to a new restaurant once a month.
I'm a very picky eater. If it doesn't look right (whatever "right" in my eyes turns out to be in the moment) I don't eat it. Because of this, I have a standard routine when it comes to what I eat. While I love me some Raising Canes, I'd like to discover a new world of food by venturing outside my usual set of meals and restaurants.
12. Spend more time with friends and family.
If you read my last blog, you probably remember that I said I have a hard time keeping friends. A lot of that has to do with me just not making the time or effort to spend time with them. Not because I don't want to, but because I'm afraid they'll say no if I ask them to hang out with me. So I usually wait for them to ask me. Because of this, I think a lot of them might get the impression that I don't want to spend time with them. And as a result, the friendship gradually dissolves.
Sometimes I just get too busy with work and errands, or I just want to be alone. But I want to make more of an effort this year to spend time with friends and family. After all, it's the relationships with the people we care about that matter.
13. Go to my doctor's appointments.
Don't worry. I'm not sick. But I do put off going to necessary doctor's appointments such as the eye doctor, dentist, etc. because they're expensive or I just don't want to make the time. I learned last year that the longer you wait to take care of something, the worse it'll get. So this year, I'm going to set regular doctor's appointments.
14. Keep my wardrobe organized.
This one will be tough. I can already tell. I have a nasty habit of throwing my clothes everywhere in my room. I just hate putting them each on a hanger to hang in my closet or folding them neatly to fit inside my dresser. It takes too much time. It's much faster to just dump them on my bed, in the closet, or in a corner in my room.
15. Keep loving myself.
I can't tell you how negatively I thought of myself because I couldn't be a different person or act a certain way. Last year became a year of trying to love the person I am, faults and all. But I still have a long way to go. This year, I hope to discover more about myself and love what I find.
Well, that's it (for now). Those are my goals for 2018.
What do you think of my goals for the new year? Do you have any goals set for yourself for the new year? Feel free to let me know in the comments below.
Thanks for reading my blog!